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Terrifically Charismatic – Emilia Clarke

Who loves charismatic Emilia Clarke? Who wouldn’t like her?  She is cute as heck to begin with but I  don’t think it is that which draws people in.   In fact, I  know it isn’t. She has something that we al wish for, and that is a  lightness and a  different way of experiencing things.   I was intrigued by her and the title  How To Be Charming Without Trying.

I  didn’t know Emilia until today. In fact I  wasn’t aware  of charismatic people like Emilia Clarke. I am not sure I  was aware  of what a charismatic person was  I had seen here as Qi’ra

in  Star Wars but that was about it. In fact, I  hadn’t thought about her again until I saw a video that portrays her as a charismatic example. That got me thinking about charisma in general terms.

A Charismatic person has the ability to match the tone of the person’s words they are with and not speak over them. In doing so the charismatic will make the other person feel at ease and enjoy having a conversation. The listener feels special, feels greats that the charismatic is intrigued by them and what they are saying.  Naturally, people  like being listened to

Do I know anyone charismatic ?

 Who do we think specifically of as being charismatic or who are the charismatic people in our lives. Do my kids and partner think I am charismatic? I doubt it. They listen to me and laugh with me but I doubt they see charisma. I am not sure I know anyone who has Emilia energy? Possibly we only know charismatic people through radio, tv, fiction, and history and not in our own real lives?  Was  Hitler charismatic? How about Donal Trump, Barack Obama, Russel Brand. John Draper ( Mad men ) Mother Theresa Michael Martin ( Taoiseach ), Queen Elizabeth II,  Diana,  Dalai Lama.

They are all so  different in their  personalities.  I  am sure they  have a wealth of followers that  truly  admire and respect them, but are they  really charismatic? You feel charisma the moment it enters the room.

Emilia Clarke's Charisma Traits include Genuine smile and 
Active listener
Charisma on Command – The traits of a charismatic person

It’s not just that someone is likable. Charismatic people draw attention. They automatically energize you and motivate you to step up and take action. What is it about them? All in all, they are certainly likable,and they inspire us and get us talking. Despite being my office leaders, I  don’t believe  any of  my  bosses  throughout my  career  were charismatic. I did what they  told  me out of self preservation but I was never inspired by them.

Terrifically Charismatic people – How are they different ?

 Is it the wide-open eyes, or is it the way they are so relaxed, the confidence they exude? Generally, they don’t disparage or dismiss the people around them.   What is it that sets them apart from others? Max Weber a German sociologist who seems to be the charisma authority indicates that charismatic people seem to have supernatural, superhuman, or at least specifically exceptional powers or qualities. 

These are such as are not accessible to the ordinary person. From a less academic standpoint one notices that about charismatic people is the spark of life. Whether they are saviors or troublemakers, they have a strong passion that triggers powerful emotions in those around them. Even in anger, they make people feel happy where people will be happy to follow their cause

Do we all see charismatic people differently

When an audience is clapping and laughing rapturously at a comedian do they see charisma at that moment. In their eyes are they under the influence of a charismatic people? Are comedians charismatic people? What  is it  that has just lightened them up. ?  Surely it has to be different for everyone. Is it the commonality that something new  or different is happening in the theatre and everyone is grabbing on to it  with joy.? 

There are so many quotes on charisma that one can read at Inc.com   For example if you have charisma then it is wise to use to make others feel well. The  quote I  think  I  like the best is

 ” Charisma is not just saying hello. It’s dropping what you’re doing to say hello.”

Robert Brault

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